2007 Where do you go

With a new year starting in less than 48 hours, an annual resolution lists seems important, and maybe more so than usual. My approach to goal setting diverges sharply from last year; each one hinges solely upon my actions.

Before listing specific action items, though, let me explain the rationale for this change, as the reasoning behind those points are actually more important than the goals themselves.

The departure traces back to a lesson about wrestling the universe: When trying to exert control that is not mine to own, while it may appear like my efforts affect the outcome—I might even believe, or delude myself briefly that my influence will out—when facing a superior force with that attitude, I will lose. On the surface, that rings a bit defeatist. Incredibly it’s the reverse, because the battle is actually me vs. myself to begin with.

Well, myself and the trolls. And again, I almost jump ahead of the point. It’s definition time.

By trolls I mean obstacles—real or imagined—that obstruct personal development. Each writer faces their own breed of the little nasties. By superior force I refer to the energy spent worrying about how someone might receive, or not receive my writing. That mentally created troll rates as my single biggest stumbling block since embarking on this journey. Approval—or rejection—of others is a greater force largely because I regarded it as such. Maybe it wasn’t ever a problem, yet I stressed until it became one. A troll feed; a troll nurtured; a troll grew fat and menacing thanks to my own hand. See ultimately, a troll is only a cretin in the way. They block the bridge, because that is their job. Perhaps something to do with unions, maybe. But answer the question and the troll shall let ye pass. Argue with the troll’s right to guard the bridge and ye shall both grow gray together.

Effective immediately, I will no longer aid, feed or comfort the enemy. In fact, I will no longer consider the troll an enemy. He’s only doing what he must. And I’m doing what I must, too.

Here are my answers for the trolls in 2007:

1) Enter twenty(20) fiction writing contests that pay cash prizes in excess of $300 and publication in a respected periodical, annual or magazine.

2) Pitch the novel to 40 agents/editors. Roughly 1.5 individuals in the business per week. Er, Roughly 1 individuals in the business every 6 working days. Or 1 agent per week, excluding summer break.

3) Launch guerrilla marketing campaign for the novel. The details of this plan must remain under wraps because it’s the only truly original idea I’ve ever had about hawking fiction. If it works, I’ll gladly disclose the details.

4) Finish a draft of The Confession before beginning another large writing project.

To all who read this site: I wish you all the best in 2007.

A trace of taste

Rupert Murdoch made a bold and, what some consider, sensitive decision to drop the OJ Simpson book and interview special. Bowing to public uproar and complaints, he reaffirmed the precedent of media treatment towards Mr. Simpson in place since the globally televised verdict. Book the Juice and then back away when the lightning bolt shorts out the switchboards. Right now, the OJ walked story in first person is not safe, or even feasible, prime-time subject matter. True, OJ is free to live his life, sign autographs, spend his protected retirement money, but the public does not stomach his face on a big screen–even after eleven years of quiet time.
And sentiment might not shift quickly. Or ever.
If he did it, maybe being the most infamous man in the world who can’t get an interview is part of his punishment. That the people on the other side of that big glowing box don’t want him inside their living room, laptop or iPod, just might be the image haunting him most of all.

The Returning

As a family we laid my grandmother, Cecilia Hilliard, to rest on Saturday, October 28th, 2006. Never believed I might say this about a funeral, but the ceremony was beautiful. Nearly every family member played a key part in the services. Some presented flowers, others served as pallbearers, and a few read scripture. Seeing us unite reminded me how important she really was to us, and how perfectly our coordination reflected her wishes that we all come together by choice and by love.

When my aunt asked me to deliver the previous entry as grandma’s eulogy, I was humbled. For some reason, the priest was very old school and would not sanction the reading of the piece anywhere except the tail of the service. A curious edict, especially since both my aunt and mother decided that based on the structure and flow of the services they designed the eulogy fit best earlier. But the priest was having none of it.

My relatives spared me the back room negotiations, which was a good thing, because another surprise decision bumped the piece back even later than the programs indicated. Up to the moment I crossed the altar, I was uncertain whether or not it was really a go. Or if the priest might inveigh halfway through. He did not.

As I read, I realized that my grandmother had bestowed one last unexpected gift. By writing her eulogy, Grandma’s passing gave me an opportunity to see my writing reach a group of people I care about.

It was the sort of real-time feedback that comes so very rarely for a writer, where the time ticks by in isolation, and the signposts are slim and none. A comment I’ll never forget: “You said what we were all feeling but couldn’t find the words to say.”

And I thought to myself, that’s as good as I can do.

And it’s good enough.

Cecilia Hilliard: In Memoriam

I barely knew my Grandmother as an adult, but all the same, I’ll never forget what she contributed to my childhood. Thinking back, the memory that bubbles up first is Christmas. Years when the whole family gathered at Grace Avenue for turkey, presents and good cheer. Perhaps those December nights stand out so prominently because the scene repeated many times, and the large cast of characters remained consistent each year; we were fortunate like that. Even more blessed, our numbers steadily grew. So when the family descended on Ground Zero for the big day, we were a huge brood, indeed. In the early eighties, it seemed like fifty people celebrating, each one spilling out of a corner or cranny, each one with a smile or a joke. Maybe it was more. Maybe it was less. But it was indisputably a lot of people for a house that size.

Christmas meant singing, too. Everyone was welcome to chime in for any verses to the Twelve Days of Christmas. Except one stanza. One line was Grandma’s and Grandma’s alone, and when I think about it, the sound of her voice comes right back through the years. The volume paused, the background chatter dipped, and every person watched the big smile on her face as she sang in a measured tone, Five Golden Rings.

There’s another moment of consequence. A grainy black and white picture of Grandma as a child. Today it sits on a table in my cousin’s living room, and on a bookcase at my mother’s house. A family portrait with her father, mother, and her sisters taken by a professional photographer. Despite her age, and height—she was just a little girl—my eyes without hesitation settle upon her. Grandma stood off and away from her sisters, away from the entire family, in fact. And though it’s clear who she belonged with, she distinguished herself, her arms and hands higher, her head tilted differently. Even as a child, the world was on notice. Cecilia Hilliard had something to say.

She was unique, and she lived a different kind of life. One where she was not afraid to stick out now and again, or take a few chances. Of all the places and people I’ve seen, I can say honestly, no one else was quite like her. I’m lucky she was the person she was.

Thank you for Christmas.

Thank you for my mother.

Thank you for Five Golden Rings.